Nik Conroy, MA, LMHC, CSAT-Candidate
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
(253) 270-0921 | [email protected]
Are you overwhelmed by intrusive thoughts and compulsive behaviors? Maybe you are losing the battle with pornography or you and your partner are working through an affair. Perhaps you struggle to believe that God even sees you at all. Whatever the issue, let’s address it together. As your counselor, I will help you uncover the root of these thoughts, behaviors, and emotions, and together we will work toward creating realistic and trackable goals for you to accomplish. I offer an open-minded space where you can explore difficult topics and challenging questions, while providing gentle direction based on solid, evidence-based practices.
Puyallup – Mon, Tue, Wed, Thu & Fri
Online (WA residence only)
I serve individuals and couples who are encountering psychological pain and difficult life situations and transitions. I have a specific passion for those struggling with pornography addiction, obsessive compulsive disorder, and individuals navigating through challenges and doubts regarding their faith. As your counselor, I am dedicated to supporting and encouraging your overall wellness—behaviorally, cognitively, emotionally, and spiritually. I will come alongside you to motivate, challenge, and strengthen you as you courageously go out to contend with life.
My Goal as a Christian Counselor
It is my hope that from our sessions, you will be able to clearly identify what is troubling you, establish practical and feasible goals which help to alleviate the pain brought on by the issue, and accomplish those goals. We’ll also work together to identify areas in your life where accepting responsibility may bring freedom, while also recognizing areas where relinquishing responsibility may bring freedom.
What I Offer in Christian Counseling
Your counseling sessions with me will be catered to your specific needs. I offer a nonjudgmental place where you can be open about whatever is on your mind and heart. You can always expect me to act in humility and open-mindedness. I am approachable and unsurprised by many thoughts, doubts, and struggles that others may find surprising. You can expect that I will be ready to listen, slow to speak, and gentle to challenge ideas.
My Approach to Christian Counseling
My approach is heavily influenced by behavioral therapy. Though theoretical exploration and insight are useful tools, I also strive to maintain a practical and realistic mentality. I believe it is important to utilize actionable steps that are not too idealistic.
Life change is possible without God. However, whether that change is actual progression is another question. I’m convinced that true progress can only occur by the work of the Holy Spirit within an individual. Faith is often an integral part of conversations with my clients depending on their comfort level. I also see many individuals and couples who prefer not to discuss faith at all.
Qualifications & Experience
I received my Associate of Arts degree from Pierce College, my Bachelor of Arts degree with a major in Psychology and a minor in Sociology from Pacific Lutheran University, and my Master of Arts degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Northwest University. During graduate school, I interned at Life Center Church as a mental health counseling intern for one year.
My Call to Christian Counseling
Exploring difficult questions and unconventional possibilities has always been a natural aspect of my personality. I am not sure how I got here, but I am happy that God has brought me to this career to encourage and build up others.
More About Me/On a Personal Note
I have been married to my wife since 2018. I am very analytically and creatively oriented, and have a passion for life’s biggest questions. Naturally, I have a deep interest in music, philosophy, theology, and the natural and social sciences. I am a man of hard questions and an open mind. Though I once struggled to find my faith, God taught me to embrace skepticism and critical thinking to deepen my faith in Him and the Scriptures. I am particularly interested in understanding design patterns and motifs within the Old Testament, and I am absolutely fascinated by Jesus and what He is doing in the lives of others.
Areas of Expertise/Specialties
- Couples Counseling
- Individual Counseling
- Infidelity and Affairs
- Marriage Counseling
- Men’s Issues
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
- Panic Disorder
- Personal Development
- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship Issues
- Sex and Porn Addiction
- Sexual Abuse
- Spiritual Development
- Weight Loss
Sex and Pornography Addiction
If you are reading this, you are likely already entertaining the idea that you may have an addiction. As renowned addictions therapist Dr. Patrick Carnes wrote, “For all addicts, a moment comes when they realize they have a problem.” Welcome to the first stage of recovery.
Symptoms of sex and porn addiction include a particular focus on repetitive sexual activities, numerous unsuccessful efforts to reduce repetitive sexual behavior, and continued repetitive sexual behavior despite negative life consequences or deriving little or no satisfaction from the sexual behavior itself. Addiction is often accompanied by lying and secrecy. In our sessions, we will work to identify the needs attempting to be met by the addictive behavior, formulate new and effective behaviors to meet these needs, and establish reliable and stringent accountability practices for maintaining sobriety. We may also explore the tension that can accompany sex and porn addiction and faith: Can someone be both an addict and a follower of Jesus?
Common anxiety disorders include Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), Social Anxiety Disorder (Social Phobia), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Symptoms of anxiety include increased worry, restlessness, tension, irritability, headaches, flashbacks, abdominal upset, or muscle tension and can often lead to an inability to do the things you find important or be around the people you love.
Severe anxiety is often rooted in past trauma. These traumatic experiences can train the mind to be hyper-alert as a way of self-preservation from future potential traumas. Research strongly supports the effectiveness of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and Exposure and Response Prevention Therapy against anxiety disorders. In our sessions, we will work to identify the underlying fears and progress gently and strategically toward conquering those fears. We may also explore the tension that can accompany anxiety and faith: what does it mean to trust God, yet feel anxiety?
Infidelity and Affairs
Infidelity tears the floor right out from under any marriage. Affected spouses are left with feelings of shock, naivety, resentment, hopelessness, or numbness. The offending spouse may feel fear, shame, self-hatred, self-naivety, numbness. While it may seem that there is no hope for marriage after betrayal, with Christ, there is always hope of restoration.
In our sessions, we can explore the causes of the affair, how to live honestly, how to live out forgiveness, how to rebuild lost trust, and how to view each other as spouses. We may also explore the tension that can accompany infidelity and faith: What does it mean to show forgiveness to an unfaithful spouse? How could a true Christian ever engage in such a hurtful action? What does godly restoration actually look like?
It is inevitable that any relationship involving two partners will encounter tension. Relationships last by the way tension is resolved, not by the absence of tension. Life is very challenging and not everyone is wired to react to challenging problems the same way. When deciding how to approach problems with our beloved spouses, it can often feel as though the other person is selfish, mean, or has simply checked their brain at the door.
While it may seem impossible to effectively communicate and compromise with our spouse, God designed marriage as a perfect reflection of Himself and the church. In our sessions, we can explore how to live with someone who is just as imperfect as yourself, how to communicate with someone who thinks differently, and how to keep the romance and the passion alive with someone who always seems to leave their dirty dishes on the coffee table. We may also explore the tension that can accompany stereotypes of marital roles and faith: what does it mean for a wife to submit to her husband? Is a husband also expected to submit to his wife? What does it mean for each partner to love and submit to one another? What if your partner is not submitting back?
Living as a Christian can be confusing. God promises us His very presence, His peace, and His joy, yet our experience of life is almost always one of pain and suffering. The flesh is indeed weak, but we forget how willing the Spirit really is. In our sessions, we can explore what it means to be a follower of Christ. Is Christianity just a religion that teaches us to behave morally? How can we be sure it is even true? What are we to do with all of our doubts? Why do terrible things happen to those who love God? Why is the Bible sometimes so boring and hard to understand?
Availability (by office location):
- Puyallup – Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Friday
- Online (WA only)
Fees: I offer a Risk-Free Initial Session for individuals and couples looking to pursue counseling with me. Please note that there is a fee for the Risk-Free Initial Session as it is a clinical hour and reimbursable to most insurance companies, but if you choose not to reschedule and continue therapy after the initial session the entire fee for the session will be waived. For ongoing treatment the full fee per session is required at the time of service.
Insurance: As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, some insurance companies will reimburse for a portion of my services (as an Out of Network Provider). Please consult with your insurance provider as to whether they specifically cover adolescents, individuals and couples.
Receipts/Statements: In the event you require a printed or digital receipt, I will provide receipts for personal use, insurance reimbursement, Flex Spending Accounts (FSA), and Health Savings Accounts (HSA).
Payment options: Cash, Check, or Credit Card (Visa, MasterCard, Discover, & American Express). A fee of up to 2.97% plus $0.15 per transaction will be added for credit card payments.
Abandonment and Neglect
Aging and Geriatric Issues
Christian Couples Counseling
Infidelity and Affairs
Sex And Porn Addiction