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7 Ways to Heal Your Fear of Abandonment
Abandonment creates a serious emotional crisis. Being left by someone you love is devastating and debilitating. Abandonment leaves an emotional imprint on the soul that says, “You are not worth it.” It crushes your self-esteem. You feel suddenly cut off from a vital relationship that sustained your life. You feel overwhelmed with loneliness, despair, and anxiety. The weight of emotional emptiness feels like it will crush you. Fear of abandonment paralyzes you and sabotages your ability to form normal relationships. You didn’t choose abandonment; it happened to you. It feels like everything has been taken away from you. However, what you [...]
Executive Coaching: The Best Way to Succeed in Job Transitions
In this article, I'll be giving a case study in executive coaching and will provide practical tips for the best way to succeed in job transitions. A Story of Job Transition from a Management Consultant I have landed in various consulting jobs. Whatever job one may land in, good and noble intentions are not sufficient, but as the saying goes, "The proof of the pudding is in eating," and one should be able to deliver results. In a pragmatic world where realism is actually contained in action and not in talk, if one does not fit in, it will be evidently clear [...]
7 Most Common Abandonment Issues Symptoms
In this article, I will describe the definition of abandonment, then discuss the seven most common abandonment issues symptoms. If any of the following sounds familiar to you, I'd love to meet with you to chat about how you can overcome these symptoms. What is Abandonment? Connection is a basic human need. Infants are born hardwired to attach to their primary caregivers. The child’s survival entirely depends on their caregivers, and if their needs are not met, it creates a high level of anxiety. When children experience ongoing losses without the psychological and physical safety they need, they internalize fear. Abandonment [...]
10 Most Subtle Abandonment Issues in Relationships
Do you frequently worry whether your partner will leave you? Do you feel panicked when you reveal too much about yourself, fearing you might drive that person away? Do you fantasize about a relationship escape plan? Do you get anxious when your partner seems aloof? Are you a serial dater? Do you need continual reassurance from your spouse? Do you micromanage your partner, always needing to know where and what he or she is doing? Are you a suspicious person? Do you have commitment problems, or do your fears of rejection keep you from entering new relationships? If you answered yes [...]
15 Tips for Creating a Personal Development Plan that Works for You
In this article we'll discuss 15 tips for creating a personal development plan that works for you. Tips for Creating a Personal Development Plan Tip #1: Set smaller goals and work on large projects a little at a time. It is easy to get overwhelmed by the task and give up. Research from the field of change human psychology suggests that preparing for a change stage leads to the creating of reciprocal actions that facilitate change. Realize that actions do not have to be large accomplishments. Learn to celebrate small wins. Setting smaller goals and working on large projects a little [...]
Spiritual Development: Definition and Purpose
Spiritual Development Core Definition Many a theologian has offered a definition of spiritual development over the course of two millennia. Spiritual development can mean many things to many people in the secular and pluralistic environment we inhabit in our terrestrial world. Spiritual development, in essence, is to believe in something beyond the material universe and to develop an awareness of realities beyond the confines of time and space. What does spiritual development mean for the Christ follower? Acts 17:28 answers the question well: “For in him we live and move and have our being.” Our essence, belonging, search for meaning, and [...]
6 Tips to Help You Push Out of Your Comfort Zone
Part 3 of a 3-Part Trapped in Your Comfort Zone Series A ship is always safe at the shore, but that is not what it is built for. – Albert Einstein Does life feel dull? Have you not tried something new in a long time? Do you often say no when people ask you to do something outside of your routine? Does different seem like an inconvenience or risky? Do you feel personally stagnant? Do you hear yourself making excuses like “I can't” or “It's not the right time”? Do you feel dissatisfied, but doubt whether you are capable of reaching for [...]
5 Rewards of Challenging Your Comfort Zone
Part 2 of a 3-Part Trapped in Your Comfort Zone Series Some people are content to stay in their predictable, safe, and cozy box, while others voluntarily push their limits. The dividing line that distinguishes successful people from everyone else is the choice to challenge their comfort zone. Successful people place a high value on breaking out of their mold because they view resistance in a different way. They don't shrink back from discomfort but pursue it for a greater purpose. Kris Vallotton says, "Vision gives pain a purpose. Vision will get me past the sacrifice it takes to get there." The [...]
Breaking Out of the Box: Two Obstacles that Keep You Trapped in Your Comfort Zone
Part 1 of a 3-Part Trapped in Your Comfort Zone Series Playing it Safe If your comfort zone has become a prison, it might be time to escape. – Cheryl Richardson What would you do if you were ten times bolder? Kris Vallotton says, "If the answer is any different than what you are doing now, then you have reduced your life to accommodate your fear!" Wow – what a thought-provoking statement. Most people are unaware that fear is a problem for them because they have reduced their lives to a box in order to minimize any stress or risk. This [...]